it's looming.30.
less than a week away now ... meaning it's pretty unlikely i will give birth to a baby while i'm in my 20s.
i spent the weekend with my twin cousins in houston. one is married and pregnant, and the other is married and soon-to-be pregnant. (more on this trip in a separate post). and in case you're wondering, everyone in the universe is either married with children or married and working on children. or single and not wanting children at the moment. i have one friend in my same boat (happy birthday today, ES!) and the good news for her is that she doesn't want a flock of kids like i've always wanted (4-5-6?).
i recall, in my freshman or sophomore year of college, making a list that detailed what i would've accomplished by age 30 -- it was a timeline of sorts. it got a little fuzzy because i had a lot on the list, but i figured some things would overlap. to the best of my memory, it looked something like this:
- by 23: graduate from college and get cool overseas job
- by 25: be in grad school and be married.
- by 27: finished with grad school and have baby number one.
- by 29: live in foreign country and have baby number two.
- by 30: be happy and have baby number three on the way.
sigh. kids are so idealistic aren't they? [sniff.]
well, i did live overseas a little bit, and i did get to travel some. i did go to grad school.
i just missed the whole part about getting married (not for lack of trying) and having 2-3 kids by now. the point was that since i knew i wanted a whole bunch of children, i knew i needed to start in my mid-late-20s. do women have 5 kids after (let's give me a nice window here) 32?
maybe i should've just married the crazy, older french-canadian guy who proposed to me quite suddenly at the end of my first sophomore semester in college. he said, "marry me and we'll move to france and live on my grandmother's lavender farm and have 10 children." (he was, erhm, leaving the next week. he knew i loved lavender). i actually thought about it for a moment, and then said i couldn't because i had to finish college. (i know. it's so ridiculous. i could've totally gone back to college later).
[i ran into this guy on campus in las cruces a couple years later. apparently when he got to france after a short period on said grandma's farm, he had joined a circus and spent a year traveling around with this circus. i like to imagine this was a wild gypsy circus. think of the stories you'd have for your ten kids if you did THAT.]
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Thanks for the shout-out Ms. Sylvia:) Incidentally, as a now 31 year old woman who is in that boat you mentioned (the husbandless, childless one)I have come to realize that you can't always get what you want. Sylvia, you can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes you just might find, you just might find, that you get what you need:) And honestly, a husband and babies are a lot of trouble...who really needs that?
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